Monday, November 28, 2016

The Hidden Forces Of Life

My mom has always been an amazing writer, though she would never admit that.  Whether it is roadshows, song lyrics, stories or poems, my mom has a great imagination and a way with words.

I have great memories of her writing.....
Several years in a row, she was on the roadshow writing committee for our church congregation.  These were full blown 18 minute musicals with plots, costume and scene changes - and of course original lyrics!  After winning several years in a row (I believe that was the case), several new "rules" were put into place.  My mom thoughts these rules were unnecessary and just plain dumb.  So -- she wrote a whole roadshow about how dumb the rules were.  And she won.  Of course she did.  One of my favorite songs - sung to The Toreador Song, from Carmen by Bizet has the lyrics:

"We have the job of making up the rules.
We do it well.  They are such jewels.
We do just as the king has asked us to,
Though we are humble and few."

As a young third grader, we had to write a fable for class.  I have a very vivid memory of sitting out in the front yard with my mom lamenting the fact that I couldn't come up with ANYTHING to write.  I had no idea how to write or what to write about.  On the spot my mom made up this amazing fable about why the trees lose their leaves every year.  It had something to do with a negotiation between the grass, flowers and the trees for time in the sun while it wasn't hot enough to burn them. It was beautiful!  I quickly went inside and wrote down my version of the story, as close to what I could remember from my mom as possible.  I don't remember all of it -- but I do remember that I won a writing award for the fable!  A red ribbon! I'm sure it is still in a box somewhere.

In college, I called her many times looking for help with papers, with rhyming poetry, or for ideas about stories.  And she never disappoints. Ever. 

As a grandma, she is known for the great stories she tells and for the amazing adventures she spins about her own grandchildren.  She has journals and writings about all sorts of things from her life.  This is a talent she has passed down to all of us in some form or another.  Whether it is academia, pleasure writing, or song lyrics - each of us has benefits in some way from mom's writing talent.

Just a few months ago, while cleaning out some old boxes, she shared with me a poem she wrote in 2010.  She had a book that had a writing different writing challenge in it for every day of the year.  The challenge for this day was a poem.  Here it is. 

The Hidden Forces of Life

Come home - this place is not for you
To settle in and feel content.
Come home - this space is not your own
It's just a temporary rent.
Come home.
Feel this pain? It's just for you
while you are in this earthly sphere
To teach you to want sweet relief
In arms of angels always near.
Come home.
See the plants all dried and bent?
And brown dead grass upon the ground?
Do you not long for all to live
Beyond this grave to which you're bound?
Come home.
To life and love and flowers sweet
Come home to family, friends and more
Come home to find your heavenly place
Come home to all you've know before.
Come home.

-- Janis Smith, Written May 5, 2010



I find great peace in this beautiful poem.  My mom has always been a great source of spiritual strength in my life.  I am confident in the reality of life after death and the arms of angels waiting for us on the other side as we go home.  When my dad was dying, I read and studied much about death and the after life.  One of my most favorite and comforting passage comes from President Russell M. Nelson in a talk titled "The Doors of Death".  He says:

"Life does not begin with birth, nor does it end with death. Prior to our birth, we dwelled as spirit children with our Father in Heaven. There we eagerly anticipated the possibility of coming to earth and obtaining a physical body. Knowingly we wanted the risks of mortality, which would allow the exercise of agency and accountability. “This life [was to become] a probationary state; a time to prepare to meet God.” (Alma 12:24.) But we regarded the returning home as the best part of that long-awaited trip, just as we do now. Before embarking on any journey, we like to have some assurance of a round-trip ticket. Returning from earth to life in our heavenly home requires passage through—and not around—the doors of death. We were born to die, and we die to live. (See 2 Cor. 6:9.) As seedlings of God, we barely blossom on earth; we fully flower in heaven."

It has been an up and down week for mom.  Her dad came to visit for Thanksgiving and we had a great few days... more to come on that.  With that came a lot of activity and movement, which can be painful for my mom.  She doesn't breathe well and can't hold her breath at all.  Something I totally take for granted.  You hold your breath for a few seconds all day long!!!  I never noticed that until this came up.... when you wash your hair, brush your teeth, cry or talk.  All of those things are difficult for her because she can't breathe well.  Her lung keeps taking on more fluid though we drain it regularly. She's looking forward to some down time this week before we pack her up to see The Nutcracker on Saturday.

Thank you for your continued well wishes and prayers.  I know I feel their strength.

Amy




Wednesday, November 16, 2016

What advice would you want?

Ever since I found out about my mom's situation, I've been asking her for advice she wants to leave behind like:
  • you are better than no one
  • read as much as you can - all the time
So what kinds of questions or advice would you want from your mom?  I'm running out of questions to ask her.

Sunday, November 13, 2016

Hospice Care

Fall is one of my mom's favorite times of year.  Actually, my mom loves every time of year except summer.  Summer is too darn hot!

I love fall as well.  I love all things nature and plants.  I think I get that from both my mom and my dad.  I wish I could grow things like my mom can.  My mom has an amazingly green thumb.  She grows plants, flowers, gardens, trees, vegetables, and everything else.  I can't even keep my Aloe Vera plant alive, seriously! But - I keep trying and keep buying plants thinking that one day, I'll be able to make it work.

Back to fall.  I believe there is a deeper meaning to the seasons.  The prophet Alma teaches us:  "All things denote there is a God; yea, even the earth, and all things that are upon the face of it, yea, and its motion, yea, and also all the planets which move in their regular form do witness that there is a Supreme Creator."  The planets moving -- the seasons -- denote that there is a God and witness of a Supreme Creator.  Each season has amazing things to teach us. After working all year to grow things and make the world beautiful, autumn teaches us that there is also beauty in letting things go, in letting things run their course and even in death.  Fall teaches and testifies in our Supreme Creator and shows us the beauty of death.

This week we began hospice care for my mom.  After a few months of testing, waiting, and testing again, we have begun the next phase of this process.  Mom had a lung catheter put in last Monday and began hospice care on Tuesday.  The catheter allows us to drain the fluid off of her lung at will.  This will help us keep her more comfortable and allow for better breathing.  She has had a rough time recovering from the procedure.  It is incredibly painful and has limited her movement and her strength.  We are hoping some solid rest and recovery will help relieve some of her discomfort.

Tonight we walked outside to view the super moon.  "It is so beautiful!" was her comment.  All things denote there is a God.  I'm so grateful to my mom for living that and teaching me that.